AWKWARD ZOMBIE

Well done, Son. I think you made a good move. Good on ya.

Thank you; it really felt like a glorified friendship rather than a romantic relationship at times.

I'm probably a horrible person now, but I went ahead and asked this new girl if she wanted to internet date now and then in-person date when we both could meet up. She said yes, so I'm taking that as a strong sign. So far it's been better than any point in my previous relationship; she never fails to talk to me, she plays games with me (oh yeah my ex never played games with me willingly), she allows me into her issues where I can help. I'm gonna hold off on talking about the "big question" stuff like marriage and moving in together unless she wants to first, so I expect this relationship to last a good while longer than my last one.

Then again it's only the first few days; it takes weeks and months to really know how a relationship will turn out.
Wish me luck.

It would be nice if people in general would just work well together, I mean I have been in far to many relationships that have lasted long and went nowhere I really dont need that anymore. So props to you if you can get that good sirs/madams

Sol why are you thinking about marriage and moving in with this girl when you've only known her a few days

Vax is right. You just met this girl right after breaking up with a (long time?) girlfriend that you were in love with an wanted to take a seriously big step with her. Cool your heels a little.

I wasn't. I wasn't in any way implying I was. I was only mentioning that I'm not going to bring it up as early as I did with my ex. That doesn't mean I'm instantly thinking about marriage and moving in; I recognize it's really dumb to have those feelings this early in a relationship.

Well when you guys start dating someone and agree to be in a relationship don't you start thinking about "how is this person compatible with me?" "How does this person fit in my life plan?"

I mean if I cant see my self being with a girl in a long term I dont think I could be with them at all.


I'm not saying everyone does that but whether or not you decide to make a guy or gal your interest isnt it something that you think about even just a little?

I'm actually in agreement with that point on long lasting relationships. Flings, to me, are just a waste of time. If it won't work between me and a girl for the long term, I lose interest. It's not crazy at all to have long term thoughts about a girl you're hoping has relationship material. It's how eager you are to discuss such things that may be a little crazy.

That is true and those are surely important things to think about

However my apparently mistaken belief that Sol was immediately considering marrying and living with this girl he just met and has barely begun a relationship with stands as something I would advise against because it's a little hasty, presumptuous, and weird in regard to the other person probably not thinking along those same lines.

i asked Brock from Cockfighting Society if he'd move in with me when i get my own place and he said yes

so now moving out is one of my top priorities

Nothing against you Nachal, but didn't you say on multiple occasions how many problems you have with handling cheddar/going out/talking to people and whatnot? Getting your own place isn't easy and isn't cheap.

thanks

On the topic of long lasting relationships: I think it's hard to say that you are someone who seeks long term/meaningful relationships without implying that ideally you want that relationship to evolve until marriage/civil union becomes a logical step.

When my partner and I first got together it was silently agreed that we were pretty much engaged.

On the other hand, I think there's a difference between 'seeing/dating someone' and being 'in a relationship'.

i remember when i asked my mom how she and my dad got engaged and i expected this nice, sweet story and it turned out he didn't even ask her;;;

they were just talking one day and he said "hey, after we get married blahblahblah" and it was just decided there

i shouldn't of been so surprised because that sounds like something my dad would do alright

but like when i ask Brock from Cockfighting Society i want it to be nice;;;; but i'll probably end up doing what my dad did by accident;;;;

Just trying to warn you. There's a lot of stuff you'll have to do yourself in your own place that you didn't have to do before and it can easily overwhelm you if you're not prepared for it.