AWKWARD ZOMBIE

It has been an hour.

That's why I have conflicted feelings :I

Dude just call her, not a big deal.

It's just a phone call, not DEFCON 1. Don't sweat it.

Called her

No answer :I

Dude she probably just left her phone somewhere and isn't nearby :\ It's not even a big deal.

WOW I am insanely oblivious.

A few weeks ago I found out that a guy in my hall has had a crush on me for MONTHS, and I had no idea. Then a couple days after that, my best friend accidentally revealed that one of my best guy friends - who I went to prom with as a friend - had had a crush on me pretty much all summer and was having trouble getting over it.

Then about 3 days ago, my best friend, Eric, drunk dialed me and started acting... strange. he kept asking, "Why did we never date?" etc. He apologized the next day and we talked stuff out, but it was still... odd. I asked my best friend, and she said that she knew, and that he'd had a crush on my for TWO YEARS off and on, and I'd been 100% clueless.

Now I'm pretty sure that a different guy in my hall is crushing on me, but I have no idea how to address it. I'm pretty sure the rest of my hall knows -cause apparently they ALL know about the other guy - and nobody is really helping me out. I don't want to come off as pretentious and outright say, "I know you like me, too bad," nor do I want to lead him on (either of them, really). They're my friends, and I just want to keep it that way.

I also feel like a bitch for unwittingly friend-zoning all these guys... oh god...

Dang, you must be hot stuff. All dem boys following you.

See that's what confuses me the most. I am the loudest, most annoying, tom-boyish sorority girl on earth. I am a giant (5'11), have braces, and am the biggest geek alive. I cannot fathom why ANY guy - especially those I consider my bros - would EVER like me. At all.

You sound like a cool girl.
All the nerds want your type.

Girls acquire quite a lot of guy friends over time, it's inevitable some will develop crushes. It's their fault for not telling you.

Also you need to take a good look in the mirror if you cannot fathom why they would be interested in you. Looks aside, height has absolutely nothing to do with anything, braces are temporary, they probably like the fact that you're outspoken, and being "geeky" means you have a variety of interests that are outside sports and shopping and such.




Also Stran, uh, your comments lately are kind of coming off the wrong way.

Raven, I feel you bro.

However I also have an irrational fear that whenever a guy says something like "we should get lunch" to me that he's crushing on me, when he actually just wants lunch.

Anyway, with your best friend, at least you guys can communicate about it. The best advice I can give is don't be a jerk on purpose, but don't feel like a jerk just because you don't share the same feelings. Friends CAN stay friends, it just takes effort. I was actually on the flip side of that situation (I liked one of my best bros), and it took me a long long long long, long long (very long, I was pretty pathetic, to be honest) time to move on, but I did and he's still my friend. Again, it's all about communication and as long as he's not a jerk about it either, things will work out.

Thanks Sheila.
Good to know.

I think I have that kind of problem too, but in reverse. I can hardly socialize with most of my female friends without accidentally getting a crush on them. And then I get retarded and never speak to them again because what if they hate me for crushing on them they must think I'm a pervert or something OHGOD

But yeah, friends can still stay friends, you just gotta let them if you're anything like me.

Man, I have terrible face complexion, pimples, messy hair sometimes and I'm terrible at social interactions outside of working with customers. I sometimes act like an annoying teenager who frustrates others easily and I say a lot of stupid things often. I find myself to be wholly uninteresting and I have trouble articulating my thoughts, thus I often come across as an idiot most likely. Despite this, it doesn't stop the rather overwhelming amount of men who
a) make quick constant glances at me while attempting to make it seem like they aren't looking at me
b)make passing flirts at me
c)try to call me horribly uncomfortable names like "kitty" "cutie" "sweetie" "hun" or "babe"
d) stumbling over themselves talking to me.
Not to mention the things I've seen on the internet.

Don't even get me started on my guy friends oh my goodness. Nearly every one that gets close enough to me develops a crush on me if they haven't already.

I'm not saying this to boost my own ego. I know this happens because I obviously have something that interests them, whether it's my personality, my fashion sense, my looks or how I carry myself. Whatever I'm doing, I guess I'm doing something right! It's nice knowing I'm still doing this when I'm just being myself.

Don't put yourself down. You sound like a lovely person with a very wide range of interests and talents, thus making you more interesting. You sound motivated and well-disciplined in improving your talents and taking care of yourself and you sound like you're pretty independent. Not only that, you are very pretty.

Height matters little. I'm only 5'7 but I've had guys shorter then me hit on me!

You are a neat person and it's no wonder your energy attracts men so much so. Don't go changing.

raven

raven

It's high time I let you know

that I also have a crush on you

Just kidding please don't kill me