AWKWARD ZOMBIE

if it's rowlf the dog then that's fine proceed

You're gonna have to be you eventually.

Muppet voices are dead sexy, so yes.

Hey bby will you be the Miss Piggy to my Kermit the Frog

it ain't easy being green

the doctors don't even know what's wrong

but dire...... I'm a muppet of a man.......

It could be your charming quirk. Or a good laugh next time you meet this girl. Work with it. Break the tension.

I'm only jokin' around 'cause I was conscious of the way I sounded as my voice box disappointed me, I can sound a lot a cooler B))))

Hopefully I can catch her tomorrow and talk to her properly, I just told her she had lovely hair (it's amazing) as I got off the bus. She smiled at me so I should be GOLDEN

Ok so I got back together with Sailor Moon who currently lives in NY. Here I am in New Jersey on the cusp of being booted out of my house, college crap to take care of and limited access to the computer aside from my bouts of TF2 at the internet cafe/comic shop I frequent and the library at school. We've been ongoing since August of last year when she came down to see me and when we started the relationship I told her that I would do my best to make sure she gets monthly visits. Between these visits I do my best to skype her and text her but with me situation at home (parents cutting off my phone bill so I have a phone that can make calls only, EXTREMELY limited access to a computer, as said before nearly getting booted out of the house etc ad nauseum etc.) she feels neglected and often gets frustrated at me for things I cannot control. But whenever she starts to get upset I am usually able to calm her down and tell her that the future looks hopeful and tell her my next visit isn't far away. Well recently, I told her I couldn't visit her in February and she flipped out and started crying and etc. It was bodaciously impossible for anything I could possibly say to make her feel better and I told her I would call her in a couple of hours so she could talk with her friends and maybe calm down. When I call back we talk things over and very briefly touch upon the idea of possibly breaking up but we care about each other too much to back out now.

Any advice you could throw my way? I love her terribly but it makes my heart ache to see her in so much pain...

tell her she is radiant like a new dawn

starting to become irrationally clingy, paranoid and upset just like in my last relationship B')

what do i do?

Didn't you delete a previous message because you didn't want to post stuff about your relationship?

i don't care if Brock from Cockfighting Society finds out about me worrying i'm clingy

Nachal I think this is an important thing for EVERYONE to consider when it comes to dating. You need to evaluate why exactly you are/want to be in this relationship. Sometimes people seek to form these relationship bonds for reasons that might make sense at first, but in the long run can be harmful to both parties. The reason you might be feeling clingy and obsessive is because you don't have a lot of positive social connections in your life, so you might rely on him for that positive interaction. This can be a detrimental thing because it can make you very dependent on him. It can magnify all your feelings about him and you might find that all your thoughts revolve around him in both positive and negative ways. Relationships are best taken on when you're in a stable situation in your life. That way the relationship can grow in a healthy manner with both people giving and receiving in equal share. It's especially difficult when you have a long distance relationship because that interaction is ALL about talking and contrived interaction through media and whatnot. This can result in the interaction feeling somewhat empty; like a meal that doesn't fill you up.

Really the advice I give a lot of people is that you have to be good with yourself before you can take another person into your life. Interaction seems easier over the internet for a lot of people, but that's deceptive. It is just as much hard work, if not more so to keep a relationship over the internet going in a positive and healthy way.You have to talk with them about how they feel about the relationship, and it's important to try to work out some other positive interactions in your own life. Those can prepare you for actual romantic relationships and help you gain independence.

For the neglected feeling. If she's online when you play TF2 then try and get her involved, or run skype behind the game and talk to her while you play - assuming you can actually multi-task well enough to make her feel you're listening properly. If you're not able to text any more then send her cute little emails once in a while, photo attachments optional - you could even do this in the college or library, most likely; I've not been in one yet that blocks email sites. You could also buy a cheapo pay-as-you-go phone and just use that solely for texting her, if you have the spare cash for it. Failing that, stamps aren't too expensive and it makes most people feel pop flyin'/special to get the occasional hand-written letter/drawing/whatever you give them. It could also help to call her for two minutes or so every day and tell her how much you love her/she's beautiful/ask how her day was, etc., if your phone usage allows for it. Taking a couple minutes out specifically for her, you know?

I've done a mixture of all these things or had someone do them for me, and they've helped me through some fairly tough moments, as I'm sure they have for other people. I'm hoping they'll get me and my guy through his deployment whenever it happens the same as they've gotten us through the underway periods he's been dragged out to sea on. Course if you already do all the stuff above then I'm not sure what else to tell you.

As for the visits... well, if it's an issue of not being able to take college time off or simply of not having the cheddar for the visit then I think you need to explain that to her. If it's a cheddar issue she might offer to help, but if it's the college thing then there's really no helping the situation. She might also have taken the once-a-month thing as a very solid, immovable thing in her mind, and need reminded that circumstances can be hellish when it comes to making those arrangements and that flexibility is very much a necessity. I'm not sure how you'd phrase that, though. Think it'd need to be better-worded than "be more flexible please" if you wanted to avoid a fight.


Nacha, I'm sort of the same way, though it happens to a bigger extent when I get stressed up. I just try and let it out in small doses and talk through it with either the boyfriend or my friends, which mostly works for me. My gal pals and I actually made a mini skype support group for us all to vent and give advice in and it helps a lot; it's been running on and off for nearly five years now, I think. Other than that, my favourite place for venting thoughts and emotions I feel I can't or shouldn't tell anyone else is this place: the thoughts room. It might help you, if you're the sort of person that can get rid of thoughts by just telling them to something. Vax's advice is sounder than mine, but this is how I cope - both with relationship stuff and other unrelated stress - and it might help you while you try and take his.

I feel like this post is unreasonably long.