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It's not really THAT big of a deal. I default assume everyone is white, male, in the 15-30 age range for everywhere on the internet until I see suggestions otherwise.
I don't think anybody here REALLY gets offended if you flub a gender pronoun every now and then. SOMETIMES you can even go by avatar. Sometimes. Like 35% of the time. Sorry, Sloth circa 2010.

I came to this forum so late.

Actually, it was great, because I had everyone convinced that I was a dude (I mainly just didn't bother to correct anyone), for the first 6-12 months I was here, and when Sloth and I started dating, it was first assumed by many that I was male, Sloth was female, then once everyone figured out I"m a lady, they just assumed that Sloth and I were lesbians, rather than wondering if he was a dude.

Is it really that important...? I don't think finding out what kind of bits every anonymous person on a forum has should be relevant to your internet experience. Like, would it change how you think about this person? Would you think differently about me if I was a girl or a boy? What if I just wanna be a fish, man?

That was a trick question. I am not a fish. I am a bear.



In short:

I don't think it's super important, I just don't want to accidentally offend anyone by using the wrong pronoun. I know this forum is mostly chill, so people probably wouldn't be very offended, but it would help avoid a potentially awkward(zombie) situation. I wouldn't think differently of anyone cause of their junk, I just want to know what they like to be called.

I prefer "that guy", "the one over there", "that wanker", or "CN, by the Grace of God of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland and of His other Realms and Territories King, Head of the Commonwealth, Defender of the Faith". is this sacrilege in the UK? I think it is. Also to find out what Elizabeth II's full title thing was I had to google it, which means I also learned she is 89 years old. She really is just living to spite Charles.

Requiring specifying gender seems unnecessary. Maybe having the option would be okay but not exactly crucial. As for specifying sex that's entirely irrelevant and completely not necessary.

just use neutral pronouns until you learn otherwise

works for me

I just refer to everyone as guys and Peoples. Works fine so far.
Also I hope it rains so I don't have to mow the lawn

I'm coming off a lot more like a dick than I meant... Basically I just wish I could magically know everyone's preferred pronoun. Also, I honestly don't really the difference between sex and gender. Is using sex bad? I really don't mean to piss anyone off here.

nah nah you didn't come off as a dick

also i would really refrain from using someone's sex because it doesn't always line up with their gender. (raises cis flag as disclaimer) from what i understand your sex is what's between your legs, but your gender is what's in your head - how you view yourself and want to be viewed by others. and there's way more than just two genders.

sometimes i wish i could know too, but in general i find it's best to just be neutral until that person lets you know themselves. it's good practice.

Yeah you've got the idea down pretty much. Gender is an identity.

Just ask. Shoot that person a (polite) PM going, "hey, what pronouns should I use for you?". Bam, easy.