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So there are two girls that I haven't known very long (since around August or September (one I actually met several years ago once but that doesn't matter)) but am reasonably good friends with. I'm interested in one of them, and both of them seem to be interested in me, moreso the one I'm not as interested in.
They're best friends with each other.

Is there some way to handle this without getting them really angry at each other?

The french call it.....menage a trois

These are all very helpful suggestions

Do either of them know you're interested in the one girl? Because if they both know, there's a chance that they might sort it out themselves.

I'm not sure how obvious it is; in fact I think it might even seem more as though I like the other one since I have more opportunities to talk to her.
It's a remarkable clusterfuck, to be sure.

Date them both.
At the same time.

In all seriousness, though, I'm not sure how to approach this. I would say let the one you're not as interested in down easily, and if the three of you are truly good friends then she'll understand and not get bitchy about it. If she does and the girl you are interested in doesn't care, then you shouldn't either. Of course, I may be a tad cynical about it, but my philosophy is this: If she's not mature enough to accept that you aren't interested her in a calm manner, then she wasn't worth your time in the first place.

God I'm such an booty.

That's not being an booty, that's being logical and standing your ground.

Regarding your issue, Yorick, I'd say don't act based on assumptions. Try and find out how they both actually feel for you. Girls are weird, they have different ways of expressing interest and some are harder to read than others (this applies to guys too, everyone is just weird). I'd like to avoid you running into the awkward situation of you letting Girl B down when she didn't even have feelings for you.

Just try to clarify things.

Argh shit why did I finally feel to vent this on RUCKY.

So a while back I went through a break-up. It was quite frankly for the better; she was a homophobe and a lol randumb and all that. Even still though, the very fact of being in a relationship made me really pop flyin'. I hadn’t been that pop flyin' in a long time. And then when things didn’t work out, I kind of felt alone. I thought that her leaving sort of opened my eyes to how lonely I was. I thought I didn’t see my friends enough and spent too much time inside.

So I started hanging out with my friends more and I’m really glad I did that. But then some stuff happened recently. Nothing I regret in the slightest, even if it didn’t help me kind of realize what my deal really is.

It didn’t give me hope to get into another relationship, but it did sort of give me a taste and reminded me of how great it is. And I realized it yesterday. I’m not a lonely person. I talk to my friends all the time and see them just as much. I’m just one of those people who find it hard to go it without someone dear. My life doesn’t really work too well without someone to confide nigh-everything with.

I just want someone to talk with about Catcher In the Rye and Schrodinger’s Cat and Homestuck and tardigrades and The Mountain Goats and music theory and the life cycle of Leucochloridium paradoxum and Portal and the green light at the end of the dock and the way everything around us will eventually fall and crumble and be forgotten.

I honestly don’t think I’ll find someone totally like that. But I don’t think that’s what matters.

What matters is that I know this.

Creaky you're at the age where we all start trying to discover ourselves. Part of this is wanting to share in the things we're discovering in the world, and in ourselves. This can be with your friends if you have very close friends, and it can be with someone you love romantically. The idea here is to seek good relationships with the people around you. Strong bonds with people are more important that specific titles like "best friend" or "girl friend."

You should be as compatible with your friends as you would be with a significant other (in a perfect world anyway.) It's good for people to be able to talk to others about what interests them and what bothers them without being judged or laughed at and stuff. Lord knows I've had friends that I wanted to share my passions with who just kinda ignored me or laughed about it. Point is you should surround yourself with like minded people, which is different than people who have the same interests.

Alright, I met this girl online a couple weeks back. We really hit it off and long story short she's my current girlfriend. I really, really like her (to the point of saying "I love you" and having it returned) and things were really strong between us; still are, in fact. But sometimes I get real lonely and she's not there when before I could come to her at any hour of the day. We both play WoW, but she plays Horde side mainly so I never get to hang out with her on Alliance. She was playing Alli with me for a while, but then she decided to get back into raiding and such. After she decided that, communication has been sporadic at best, and even when I notice she's not in a raid or dungeon she tends to not respond. I have real bad anxiety issues, especially with romantic interests, so when she doesn't talk to me like that when we used to chat all the daisies time (even into the wee hours of the night), I get really nervous and start formulating unreasonable theories.

I want to talk to her about it, but I'm afraid I'm going to offend her or assume too much and make an booty of myself or something. I guess what I'm asking is this: Is approaching her up-front about this the best plan or should I ease into it? I know beating around the bush gets us nowhere, but I'm just scared I'm going to say something wrong and lose her forever. It's happened before..

Relationships only work if you're completely honest with each other. Sure, sometimes you may be feeling something that's unreasonable. I get the same way when I talk a lot with someone and when they don't reply back at times I start thinking all these crazy thoughts that they hate me or I'm annoying.

Instead of stumbling along in the darkness, just ask her "Hey, I can't help but feel that we don't talk that much anymore. But I'm just wondering if it's because you're busy with something or if there's another reason for that? Please tell me if I'm thinking unreasonably as I don't want to come off as a needy person." You guys have to talk this out and present your reasons/situations to each other so that you both can fully understand the situation and know how to deal with it!

Surely, you don't want to come across as that guy who NEEDS to TALK to THEIR GIRL every SECOND OF EVERY MOMENT. Or who wants them to account for every moment of where they are.

But it's understandable since online chatting is the only connection you guys have. It's not the same as when you can be in person together. So any contact you can have due to the lack of in real life experiences you could have is encouraged a lot because that's a lot to make up for.

So yeah gist of it is talk it out and don't be afraid to be honest and ask for her opinion on it. If she reacts negatively about it or even immaturely about it, then well, probably is for the best. It's these times that help you see, on a larger scope, who they really are and how they deal with these kinds of moments.

Edt: To be more precise, don't beat around the bush. Just be direct but open to her thoughts.

I feel so bad about this:

The girl I...love...is in a relationship with someone. The girl and I are good friends. Her boyfriend is 18 and may be going to the military, he also used his Pell Grant to fix his motorcycle. Her mother dislikes him because he is alot like her dad. My sister, her sister, and many friends have told me they plan to get us together somehow. I don't know how to feel about this.

I'd say get the other guy sorted out before he enlists.

This kind of sounds like a Gatsby situation in the making. She's his, not yours, and even if everybody agrees she would be better off with you, that doesn't mean she should in the situation you two are in. If she wasn't in a relationship, there would be no reason you two wouldn't or shouldn't be together. But because of the situation...I would personally just try to distance myself.