I suppose Current Events is the thread for this.
Studies find academically overbearing parenting styles correlate with college age depressionQuote:
When seemingly perfectly healthy but overparented kids get to college and have trouble coping with the various new situations they might encounter—a roommate who has a different sense of “clean,” a professor who wants a revision to the paper but won’t say specifically what is “wrong,” a friend who isn’t being so friendly anymore, a choice between doing a summer seminar or service project but not both—they can have real difficulty knowing how to handle the disagreement, the uncertainty, the hurt feelings, or the decision-making process. This inability to cope—to sit with some discomfort, think about options, talk it through with someone, make a decision—can become a problem unto itself.
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When children aren’t given the space to struggle through things on their own, they don’t learn to problem solve very well. They don’t learn to be confident in their own abilities, and it can affect their self-esteem. The other problem with never having to struggle is that you never experience failure and can develop an overwhelming fear of failure and of disappointing others. Both the low self-confidence and the fear of failure can lead to depression or anxiety.
If I had a dollar for every time I freaked out because I felt pressured to take on more classes than I could handle, or felt anxious over some simple life event I had never done on my own before, I could pay off my student loans. Honestly I hadn't even thought about exactly what I wanted to do in college before I went, I didn't have a goal or plan, I just went because it was expected of me. Not just by my parents but by teachers as well. Looking back I wish I had had the chance to sit down and plan out exactly what I wanted to do. Now I kind of feel like I'm stuck on a certain career path and it'd be a waste to try something else... but that could also just be "grass-is-greener" thinking.