plasma wrote:
Karilyn wrote:
I actually think you summed up very nicely one of the things that I abhor about Christianity.
The average christian church heavily pushes people to get married very early in their relationship, by prohibiting people from being allowed to have a mature relationship with one another outside of marriage. And if a person is discovered to have had an adult interaction that resulted in a pregnancy, they are often given the ultimatum of either marrying, or being kicked out of the church.
You're about 200(probably) years out of date. The Catholic Church (not saying anything about protestant churches, they're far too varied) certainly does not do that anymore! Some societies still would, but not the Church!
I'm talking about Protestant churches. Yeah I know you don't live in America. But I was specifically referring to American churches.
I've been a member of I think 8 different churches in my life, all over the country (father was in the military, I've been to all corners of the country). And every single one of them, except for the GBLT church I went to for a few months before converting OUT of Christianity, would have done exactly what I said.
I've also poked and visited a fair 20+ different churches. Yeah it's a small sample size, but it still seems fairly accurate, when I watch the people around me combined with what I've already dealt with.
plasma wrote:
Karilyn wrote:
Never mind you that if they had taught safe sex, that the folks wouldn't have accidently gotten pregnant in the first place.
Alcohol.
Contraception failure.
Exceptions may apply. It still does not mean that the overwhelming majority of accidental pregnancies occur due not being aware of how to perform safe sex.
plasma wrote:
Marriage is little more than one big commitment to a relationship!
Exactly. And that is what it should be. But the Christian church IN AMERICA keeps trying to make it into a crucial moral obligation to become married before you pursue a relationship into any depth, such as moving in with one another or seeing if you are sexually compatible.
If you don't, you are a horrible sinner who will burn in the depths of hell for all eternity, and even God will not forgive you.
And thus people are miserable, and thus they wind up getting divorced.
I swear, it seems like the majority of marriages in America are getting married because they want to be able to move in with each other and make love. Or the woman became pregnant. Or some other reason which should be ANYTHING OTHER THAN A GOOD REASON TO GET MARRIED.