AWKWARD ZOMBIE

I know it really blows. But when your date decides to just run off with someone else this was obviously not the right person for you and you should respect yourself more than to bother with her anymore.

Well, I haven't really stayed in contact with her since then, but it still just pisses me off. She was the ONLY person I've ever felt really attracted to, and I don't think I have the social skills to actually find someone else.

You really shouldn't feel any pressure to have to find anyone. I know it's really nice to have someone for yourself. But if you're actively looking for someone you might fall in to the trap of coming across as desperate.

I know it's hard, but try to find solace in being you. Try to improve what you don't like about yourself. Challenge yourself to better the things you find hard. And if you have fun and go to places and events where you enjoy yourself, someone will look at you and think "that guy seems a lot of fun to be with."

That's easier said than done. The only social events I've done in several months were going to the mall. And everyone at the place I do volunteer work at is either a dude or 50 years old. And I'm going to community college next month, and do you actually think that community college is a good place to find someone who's interested in you?

So no, fuck it, not going to bother with any relationships again.

Good luck trying that, your hormones are like teenagers, doing exactly what you don't want them to.

D: We can go in a pretend date! as in.w e could go like hang out and stuff

if I was closer :c

Actually I'm in my second year of community college and I've met a ton of awesome people who I'm friends with. Some of the girls I met would hit on me until it became evident to just about all of em that I had a lady, but the fact remains, you can meet people anywhere.

But as Terraem very wisely said, you shouldn't feel pressured into being in a relationship. It's not a do or die kind of thing. It's a nice thing, but it's not the most important thing, and it's DEFINITELY not more important than having a habitual vision of greatness, which we should all permit ourselves to have. Don't say "One possible chance to be in a relationship fell flat, so I'll never try to be in a relationship ever again" but instead say "Well that didn't work out, and that's a shame, but life goes on, and there are plenty of people out there that I'll meet and perhaps be attracted to."

I would really love to make friends, but it's been hard for me to do so ever since high school. It's like I lost all of my social skills. How do I regain that?

perfect timing for this thread

help what do i do, i haven't spoken to him in like a year and here he comes flirting again!

By putting yourself in social situations dude.

If you have any friends, try to hang out with them sometimes. Invite yourself to things.

You can even, like, converse with your family and stuff, or with the people you volunteer with. Talk with people and practice being social. It requires breaking out of anti-social habits and tearing down a bit of your self imposed comfort bubble but it's pretty much possible.

Also when you get back to school, do some clubs and get involved with people. It's a simple as that my man. Don't try to be anyone you think is "cooler" than who you actually are, and don't make any Evil Knievel leaps to get there. It just takes a change of paradigm to get in touch with people, and some self esteem as well. Self image is important when dealing with people, because we as humans can sense when people feel unsure of themselves and whatnot.

@Tales haha oh man is that one of your famous boy suitors?
I'd say, if you don't really, like, want to talk to him, just ignore him?

I love how i'm well known for this even though i've never been out with a boy, ahahaha. He's in my school but in the year above and I haven't spoken to him in like a year, and all of a sudden he's liking my status' (clear sign of love) and now he's just commented on that. He's then said ''Ok D' so um, i guess he might inbox he later? I mean, if he wants us to be friends that's fine, i just don't really want anything more.

Pretty much what Vax said, put yourself out there. Overcome your shyness. You're probably going to screw up and put yourself in awkward situations from time to time, but that's okay, that happens to everyone.

Well yeah if he starts making with lovey dovey stuff just tell him you're not gay, or that you are not interested in a relationship with him, but wouldn't mind being friends. Though you are correct, liking someone's status is akin to a marriage proposal in this day and age you could be in trouble.

But Vax
What if I want to impress people by making Evil Knievel jumps
Like, bodaciously
Because it was my big childhood dream to become the next Evil Knievel


But kidding aside, Vax and Syobon gave really good advice. It's weird how easy things are in theory - the hard part is actually making the first step and starting to change things and/or get out of your comfort zone.

Tatzel you will leap into the hearts of millions on your motorcycle of love don't worry.

Also yeah, of course I could spout advice and words of wisdom all day, but that doesn't mean they're easy things to do. It's tough to break out of your comfort zone and get over the initial discomfort of doing new things and interacting with people in new ways, but it really is very worthwhile, and you have all the time in the world to do such things. You shouldn't feel pressured by yourself or anyone else to do these things, though a little self imposed urgency can always help to make big changes in our own lives.