Wry Bread wrote:
Well the thing is, you can swallow that phlegm or choose to spit it out; the vagina is angled downward, directly between the legs, and menstrual flow specifically can't be retained by any bodily means even for a moment when it would be more convenient. Phlegm isn't going to get all over your mattress, clothes, and body, either, and I mean a bodaciously constant flow of it, not seemingly-constant-- think a faucet turned on to a fast drip or slow trickle that never changes pace except to speed up sometimes. Colds and the flu and such also don't comprise three entire months out of the year for most people. But we're kind of splitting hairs I guess-- some women are lucky enough to have a flow that's really light and not very painful, some people have terrible immune systems and get sick all the time, etc. They're both sucky, I'm just trying to explain that's it's not just a minor inconvenience for most women or something.
Well to be fair, I did consider that option, but really there are three things you can do with that junk in your face. Swallow it, spit it out, or blow it out of your nose (this is becoming such a questionable conversation). When you swallow it, your throat starts to hurt like you swallowed a marble the size of your fist. When you spit it out, you have that shit getting everywhere. When you blow it out, unless you're rich enough for those fancy "puffs plus" tissues your nose is going to end up looking like a red giant from the constant rubbing...plus that shit still gets everywhere.
I fully understand though that it's not just a "minor" inconvenience. I was trying to explain that if a woman is able to have that "not a minor inconvenience" and have nobody be aware of it, it's actually very attractive.
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ANYWAY though the biggest thing is that like, when I say the loud-girl stereotype, I mean that just like most girls in our society are conditioned to think that anything gross is shameful of them, even if it's not controllable (such as menstrual flow),
some girls are equally conditioned to act out the stereotype that GRR RAWR BEING ON MY PERIOD MAKES ME A BITCH, and to be honest, a lot of guys will eagerly blame menstruation or PMS rather than admit there might be an actual problem with them, their relationship or their partner. Isn't it easier (in a wishywashy short-term way) to say your lady is ruled by her feminine instincts than to admit she isn't compatible with you, or that there's an actual problem that needs more attention than a hackneyed "It's that time of the month agaiiiin" and a 1990s laughtrack?[/quote]
I've known people like that actually, where he'll know about his girlfriend's time of the month, and completely go insane himself, causing her to go insane as a result. Most of the time, she got angry because he was being an asshole about the whole "period" thing. He'd not include her on some things because she'd be on her period, and in his head he was being sensitive, and polite, but then she caught wind of it and would get rustled off because it wasn't that dire a situation that she couldn't go. I'm not even talking about things that would be questionable with a constant flow, like swimming, or bike riding. It would be going to the movies, or to dinner. Eventually she broke it off with him, and she did so during a time nothing was happening (intentionally) and even then he blames it on PMS. Guy was a tool anyway.
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Some guys blame their temper and shitty qualities on how manly they are and how it's just sooo hard to control so much sheer awesome in one humble human body, etc. while some girls have the go-to excuse of PMS/their period and other stuff that is really annoying to just everybody. Plus, from above, the same way I logically know that menstruation isn't something to be ashamed of yet still feel shame and anxiety because I was conditioned to as an immediate reaction, some girls feel they're expected/supposed to behave the opposite way and throw around a bad mood they blame on it; to them it seems like an expected female thing that goes along with the "likes shoes and chocolate" etc. stereotypes. That's the thing about stereotypes-- they're self-fulfilling. Everybody verbally acknowledges they're inaccurate and mostly a joke but they have a way of forcing themselves on us as a self-fulfilling expectation of what's normal. But that's another conversation altogether.
In all honesty, I find those guys to be raging dicks anyway. The whole point is not acting like a boner in society, because you have the self control to do so. Apparently, I'm supposed to blame my quick temper on the fact that I'm Irish (according to my Dad), but I only really get that rustled off at a small amount of things.
Kamak wrote:
Also to consider, Reyo, I had a friend who was a bit of a bitch on her period once that she blamed on that. I've known her over 5 years and that's been the only time I've been around and seen her snap because of her period, and I've definitely been around her enough times that I would been around her during her time of the month multiple times. If people saw her just that one day flipping shit because of her period, they might think "Oh jeez, she's that person", when really, she just had a bad day that happened to be coupled with being on her period (and even if she wasn't on her period, people tend to assume women are if they're acting "irrational" and upset).
Breaking down once in awhile, even over a period, is fine as long as you're not taking advantage of it to be a dick (as it seems the girl in the room next to you is doing, and would likely still do if she didn't have periods). Everyone is going to have bad days, and bad days are often made worse (or happen in the first place) when you're hurting physically (my back makes me want to avoid people when it's in pain).
Was it an instance where she was extremely angry, and the fact that she was on her period just slipped out, or did she bodaciously say "I am really angry and it is a direct result of the fact that I am on my period and my hormones are all RRRRAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGEEEE!"?
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