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kaizokuxraven · **Joined:** Sun Feb 07, 2010 5:31 pm **Posts:** 504

Every boy I like has a girlfriend, I swear. I only seem to be able to pick out the taken guys.

Poooop.

Vax · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 12:17 am

[Insert Fail] wrote:

Vaxidd8 wrote:

Casual small-talk is always a good jumping off point, followed by an introduction.

There have been times where guys I'd never previously met would come up to me, make casual small-talk, then suddenly introduce themselves. Maybe it was the way they all delivered themselves, or it could very well be me, but it would always throw me off. Felt awkward, too. For some reason I'd be more comfortable with a guy approaching, introducing himself first, and then making conversation. It's almost like the small-talk seems pointless to me - if you just wanted to know me then why not come out with it right away? Dancing around the issue doesn't do anything. Randomly introducing yourself in the middle of a conversation disrupts the flow of things, as well.

(It's probably just me.)

Ahhh so, in other news, I never really thought I'd be the type who'd be in an internet-based relationship. I never thought they would be fulfilling enough. Lo and behold, dude comes in, I throw all my previous notions out the window and we decide to "see" each other. I was pretty adamant about not wanting him to commit to anything or for us to get any more serious than just admitting we liked each other until we got to see one another.

Just spent the weekend with him and it was fantastic. The hardest thing now coping with the lack of physical contact now that I've actually experienced it. I want this to work, though, more than I have anything else.

Oh well I mean yeah, if I were a lady I would find that a little off putting too. It's just that he had kinda made it sound like he knew this lady a bit through some friends.

I guess in all honestly though, anyone I meet (just a casual meeting and not even an opposite sex thing) I introduse myself first

SO YEAH TRIPPIN DO THAT SHIT TOO

[Insert Fail] · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 12:21 am

I didn't mean to criticize you or make your advice seem poor in any way, sorry if it came off that way! I actually had this same thing happen to me while I was walking home from the airport today so when I read through the thread that line in particular stuck out to me and whoops, suddenly a post.

Vax · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 12:23 am

Oh hey no way bro shit's gravy. Inadvertently you made me rethink what I said, and it's not like I'm always right anyway

I AM NOT THE MASTER OF LADIES I KNOW IT'S SHOCKING OH MAN

But yeah no don't sweat it mang

[Insert Fail] · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 12:27 am

Man don't be selling yo'self short, you know aaall the ladies be swoonin' when you walk in the room.

Firestorm · **Joined:** Mon Jan 04, 2010 10:38 pm **Posts:** 5421

*swoon*

kaizokuxraven · **Joined:** Sun Feb 07, 2010 5:31 pm **Posts:** 504

Gonna be honest, one of the most attractive things in a guy (to me) is HIM coming and showing interest in ME. So small talk, kind of... but just him approaching me at all will make me remember him - even if I don't wind up with him or whatever. It's actually really helpful to girls cause I know for me, one reason I don't approach guys a lot is that I'm worried they're already taken (my friday night was a good example of this; dance with a guy all night at a club and find out the next day he's got a girlfriend - now I'm the "slut from the club" ._. ). If YOU approach THEM, they'll be pop flyin' that you;re interested, no matter what the outcome is.

That's what I think at least. Sorry if that doesn't help >_>

Vax · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 12:37 am

Firestorm you ain't gotta swoon

You already have me

And Kaizo that is a very very good point. It's the same for most men too. It's flattering when people take a positive interest in us! We all know how compliments make us feel, and you have to be preeeeetty creepy to make a compliment come off as disconcerting (unless of course it's completely inappropriate or really random or something.)

Tatzel · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 1:13 am

So far no man ever approached me, it was always me doing the first step. Same when it came to confessing my feelings and asking them out, I never got asked first. I never think too much about it though. I mean, sure I guess it'd be nice if someone else would approach me first? I don't know, I'm just used to me doing the first step, and hey, why should I wait for others? It might aswell be too late when I wait too long, so I rather take matters into my own hands.

And Sheila, that's nice to hear that you found someone new. I really hope it works out for you two!

Vax · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 1:30 am

I've seen that actually being more prevalent in recent years, Tatz. Maybe its either an increase in forwardness/confidence in women, or a nervousness in guys. I personally find it a bit more...gentlemanly to be more forward, rather than wait for a particular lady to take interest. That and I'm just kind of an outgoing person I guess iunno.

But yeah, of course, nothing wrong with making the first move bro, and I highly doubt the fact that fine lads don't often take the first step with you reflects poorly on yourself, considering you are in fact a pretty cool person, and not at all hard to look at, mind you.

Tatzel · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 1:39 am

I am a reverse love ninja

no one knows that they got feelings for me until I hit them

Pow

Oh god compliments, how do I react
But yeah no, thanks man. But I guess that's the case actually? That people rather think of me as a friend than actually a love interest/possible partner. And looking at the relationships I had, I guess it's not really an accomplishment that I often succeeded. Oh well, I guess I gotta keep trying.

Vax · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 1:55 am

Tatzel wrote:

Oh god compliments, how do I react

Well I mean

I could make it easy for you

And you could like maybe pay me cheddar? I think that's a pretty good setup yeah

But yeah I feel you, in all honesty that was my situation for a while. More friendly relationships than actual romantic ones (Which personally I was perfectly pop flyin' with so yeah)

But yeah dude trying is a thing you should definitely do if you're lookin for a worthy lad and whatnot.

[Insert Fail] · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 2:08 am

Tatzel wrote:

Oh well, I guess I gotta keep trying.

If you stick to this mentality then you will succeed.

kaizokuxraven · **Joined:** Sun Feb 07, 2010 5:31 pm **Posts:** 504

So question.

I kinda likes these two guys in my dorm, still haven't hung out with them enough to really have a solid stance, but I DO like them a lot. I have a formal for my sorority coming up, and we need to bring dates. I mentioned in passing to one of the guys that we should go - only it's "PJ Jam" meaning guys wear boxers and girls wear (typically) lingerie. He said sure, but "You know, as good friends," but with a sly smile. But I kinda really want to go with the other guy...

A. Is this just way too weird of a party to bring them to?
B. Do you think we was serious about wanting to go?
C. The answer is always C

Superior Bacon · **Posted:** Mon Oct 24, 2011 2:22 am

it's an okay party to bring them, it's informal and though slightly risque, it doesn't seem like too much. and since he did say he wanted to go, i am guessing that he does want to go.

AWKWARD ZOMBIE

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