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For me it's a healthy mix between personality and appearance. If she's hot shit but a complete grade-a bitch then I'm not going for it. On the other side she could be the sweetest girl ever and look like a troll and I wouldn't. I'd gauge that in this balance personality holds more sway over looks, hence why many of my relationships were over the internet (i.e. most everyone at my school was cute but had stupid personalities.. or were already taken) I will say this, however. Due to my own low self-esteem I will usually give anyone a chance if they're nice.

Girl-lover heah

Does avoiding a huge mistake count as progress?

If so, after my ex broke up with me, her cousin broke up with a mutual friend of ours; incidentally the same friend I had a crush on before I met my ex. So we were both single and I was on rebound but fortunately! she wasn't, and I confessed to my crush and sort of implied I wanted her to reject me, and she did, and everything's great. This was a few weeks ago, I think?

So woo handling things responsibly!

Yeah, I've found that most people say a combo of personality and appearance but there's still those weird anomalies where you wonder "Man, how did so-and-so end up with them?" or "Man, he/she has everything so-and-so is looking for, but they're just not interested."

I dunno, maybe there's a specific thing or mysterious chemistry that has to happen. Sometimes people have to know them as a friend first (like me, I can't even see someone as dateable unless they're my friend and I know them sorta well), but some people just instantly classify others as "friend" or "potential date", but not both, which I don't understand at all.

I dunno, I'm not exactly doing a quantitative study, but it sure is interesting to hear people's opinions.

I've grown disinterested in girls over small (read: big) personality quirks more than I have physical looks. Yeah, I'll grow interested in a girl if she's got a nice face/figure, but a lot of the times she'll do something that is just so...stupid. What's more is how she presents herself. If all she can talk about is how hot some guy is/isn't and keeps going into detail about what makes a guy attractive...I just...ghuh. I winced at least a dozen times reading your comment shazza. It's not that I dislike the fact that women will scrutinize for looks, it's just that I was programmed into thinking that if you care more about looks than personality, then you're shallow as fuck. I know what makes someone hot vs. ugly, but it's already been programmed into my head from the 90's that you're supposed to put personality on a pedestal, and that going for looks makes you a pig.

That's why when I see someone I find physically attractive, I won't do anything.

Part of it is how in the hell I'm supposed to go about doing it. I mean, I can talk to women, but if all I know about them is I like how they look, physically, I draw a blank when it comes to conversation starters. "Hurr, ur pretty!" Yeah...no.

A big part of it is she has to kind of understand my humor. My type of humor is I'll be sarcastic about situations that, to someone who doesn't get it, I look like I'm stupid as shit. That makes it to where when I crack a joke, she'll be like "Oh my gawd are you, like, serious?!" and all I think is "wwwwwwwwwwow what a bitch..." It can't be that I have a bad sense of humor because my roommate, his girlfriend, and all of my friends from my hometown get it.

One other thing is I feel I deserve someone who's fit. I understand full well that "the universe don't owe you shit!" but it's less a vanity thing and more one where I was able to go from fat to skinny...so why in the fuck is it so wrong for me to expect the same out of my perspective partner? Before I got skinny I didn't really have a "no fat chicks" rule, but I guess after getting fit I have this subconscious resentment for anyone who can't do the same. It's made me feel like I deserve better in a partner.

I know that I like a balance as well, a girl can be cute/hot but she has to have some intellectual ammo. I'm not looking for a trophy or a troll >.< I am a gamer so being able to come home after work/school and sitting down with a girl who wants to be playful, cuddly, and cares about me in even the slightest capacity is nice. That being said I don't want to be smothered.

As far as attraction goes, I really like girls with a decent body, slim to curvy but not a huge amount of extra baggage in the pouch and such. Something about a girls face does it for me, I love eyes I can look into and get lost in. As far a the tits I like big B to small D or depending on the girls frame DD ;D I have noticed that I really like girls who have smaller waists. As far as backsides go I do enjoy a amazing booty. A small full booty is amazing! Other than that as far as style of clothing goes, I am not very picky. Sometimes modesty goes a long way. As far as hair styles so long as she looks like she takes care of herself that is fine with me.

That is my contribution to sociological studies for the day.


And some day it might happen. A man can dream right?

I can usually find something attractive about any girl I meet, be it their intelligence, expertise or cuteness or their face, build or fashion-sense. For Sailor Moon, it was mainly her intelligence and her slim figure that I liked.

I.m unsure if not being picky is a good thing or not.

Well its not like I absolutely have to have those things in a girl. I mean she would be a holy f-ing grail if she was all those things. But we are all people, and we all are different. I have had great relationships with girls who don't fit that descriptor

Personally I'd say I'm picky, but only for personality and not appearance. As long a guy doesn't look like a total slob, that's fine.

HOWEVER since I'm so introverted and only have a few close friends (and therefore even fewer potential romantic interests), a guy would have to be able to get to the close-friend level before being able to be considered dateable, so he would have to be nice and funny and good to spend time with and all that jazz.

I have noticed though, that when I'm crushing on someone I tend to find more positive aspects about them than I did before, especially in appearance and stuff. I wouldn't have thought about that guy's hair much before, but now that I look at it, it's pretty cute, etc.

I think as far as looks go I'd choose my partner like I'd choose a pet. Clear eyes, good posture, good skin, well bred, doesn't bite children.

Thats the dream right there

Welp, I'm out of the running.

If a girl is short I am instantly infatuated

like short bubbly girls I cannot even HANDLE how cute they are

Nothing is cuter than a brunette.

Nothing.

you wanna fight me motherfucker

Sorry man, I'm too busy being infatuated with my brunettes.

Brunettes with short hair.

My word, that's a lot of adorable.