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i've always heard demi as being like, you can't be sexually attracted to someone until you really get to know them. not that you don't like them or find them attractive, but specifically you don't find them sexually attractive.

though i also think it's kind of an odd thing to put a label on but if it helps people find themselves and understand themselves better i'm down with it

Demisexuality is the term used for someone who cannot feel sexual attraction to someone without some kind of connection that makes the switch flip. This doesn't mean they'll want to bone everyone they get into a deep relationship with though. They could be in a relationship for years and still not find their partner sexually attractive despite how much they've shared.

It's kind of like "asexual until I meet the one who fits". It's different than abstinence or conscious deprivation of sex because the drive bodaciously isn't there until they find the person.

Some people misuse demisexuality for "I'm waiting for the right person because I'm just like that. " or think it's just like "I can't see myself doing a weekend fling", but it's something more.

Also, as an aside, there's people trying to make a distinction between finding sexually charged media as sexually arousing even if people don't sexually arouse them until they find someone who clicks. It's a bit strange but I'm sure you guys probably understand being turned on by something that your partner doesn't necessarily encapsulate despite also finding them sexually attractive for different reasons.

I hope this post isn't too TMI

There's also demiromanticism, which is the same thing but on the romantic side. I have had exactly two crushes ever, both on guys who I know almost as well as myself. I can't imagine dating someone who I don't know intimately already.
Love At First Sight is a thing people talk about often, but It's always been something completely and utterly foreign to me. My dad says that he knew instantly that he loved my mom, and my mom says it took her a bit but she knew quickly too. Shit happens in movies too, and I just... I don't get it. I can't even begin to fathom how that works.

But see, I just see that as a difference in people. I don't really see it so much as a hard and fast.....condition? It's hard to find the right word for it, but I guess I mean to say that there are tons of people who feel that way and that's just how their brains work, so I feel it's a bit silly to quantify things like that as specific sexualities. People are complex creatures and one of our favorite things to do is try to figure out the exact nook and cranny we fit in when it comes to the world and society and our own social bee-hive. In many cases I consider it a normal and healthy behavior and, honestly, a marvelous example of how interesting the human social structure can be. I also feel, however, that sometimes people exhibit varrying degrees of stress when trying to determine how exactly the manifestation of their sexuality compares to others. I feel for people who draw validity for themselves from which specific word they most identify with, and that any deviation from what that word implies causes them to self doubt or experience undue stress.

For the few unaware, I'm in the southern USA. Kentucky, specifically.

Conversation about the Confederate flag with coworker somehow turned into her lecturing about how God made a man and a woman and anything else is wrong and she would burn any gay flag she saw and it just went on and on. I'm doing my daily paperwork and she's going on about heaven and hell and gay sex and it never ends.

Maybe next time I won't wear my rainbowish shoes to work.
edit: she also told me about how horrifically racist her husband is.

Edit2: edited again for my stupid phone that auto corrects "offensive" words like "hell" and "sex".

Aww man I should get a rainbow something but I dunno what.

chard

Rainbow Chard. The prettiest of all leafy greens.

How I've been feeling lately.



wigs are pretty fun

Do transwomen typically wear wigs....?

I was just gonna grow mine out...

Any chance of wig pics, Kira? If you're comfortable sharing, that is.

And I think the normal thing for transwomen is to grow their hair out, but I can see why wigs might be used while your hair grows slowly out.

How about makeup? You two get into that yet? I remember it took at AGES before every girl my age growing up had makeup figured out. Better start practicing, eh?

Of course, there are also the women who never figured out how to makeup correctly. Not that I'm one to judge. The extent of my makeup is I use a facial cleanser and occasionally moisturize. It might be really crazy difficult and I will never know.

I haven't gotten into makeup yet. But soon! I think my family's going to be gone for like a week in August and then maybe I can do that. And also get some liquor because god daisies I need a round two, round one was awful.

Step 1: Buy Rumchata
Step 2: drink it from the bottle it tastes so good