AWKWARD ZOMBIE

Tonight EVA-01 was very sad, and under a lot of stress, and I realized it only once I had been fully invested (as a GM) in a CoC game, so I couldn't leave, and I could feel her being sad and mad at me at the same time for not being here, and those times I can't seem to do anything well, I just keep acting dumb, being scared of boring her, acting dumber, etc; and I'm going to see her for the first time in a month tomorrow and I'm very afraid, and we were going to go camping for three days and I didn't plan well enough and there's a possibility I'll have to tell her we won't do it this time even though she traveled to my region from hers with A LOT of camping stuff, and I'm afraid I just made a big mistake and I feel like I'm a jerk or simply too dumb ...
(I'm sorry, this may sound confusing, right now I'm not feeling well at all, I think I'm going to cry)

Today a friend of mine told me that one of my chums mentioned he finds me attractive.

Bit of a confidence boost, though slightly mitigated by it being my crush who told me.

Maybe they were testing you. Seeing how you'd react. Yeah.

I've been against dating for a while now, but now I'm starting to get a crush on this girl, so my feelings are kinda conflicted. I guess I might as well talk to her though. Even if I end up deciding I still don't want to date, it's always nice to have more friends.

That's a really good attitude to have.

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Anyway, I know adding people on facebook is a rather controversial step in "relationship"ing. On one hand, there are several "good friends" I've never added to facebook, and several people I've added where calling them an "acquiantence" would be a stretch. On the other hand, one of my more "romantic" friends has used facebook as a means to completely initiate a friendship with a girl, which quickly became a stereotypical "relationship." That's a thing, right? Does that work? (apparently, but that isn't just a fluke in the design, is it?) Every fiber of my common sense says "friendship comes before adding on social media sites" but I've been one to completely misjudge these scenarios.

Also I ask because in my experience as a "Community Entrance Filter" I've met a girl who regularly stops at the gate to make conversation. We obviously get along, but it's never been more than just her stopping at the gate to make conversation the few times she's seen me each week. I quickly developed "the feelings" but, like always, find myself utterly clueless at the following steps.

I think your common sense is spot on. I'd recommend against the facebook play. If someone is able to do it successfully they probably have a lot of other smooth moves to back it up. More often then not the stories I hear about people trying to initiate though FB are about what creepers they are.
There's a lady at work who has to add bloody everyone to facebook, and she 'likes' every single thing they post including every photo even if they're ages old. So when new people start at work (male managers specifically) they get warned not to add her.

Not saying you'd be a creep, more that because of creeps, friend invites on FB are something people can be pretty wary of.

I'd say keep doing what you're doing. Each time you say 'hello' and ask her 'how she is doing' is like a little mark in the non-creep column. I have plenty of regular customers who became friendly with me and will actually ask for me at work because I initiated greetings each time I saw them and asked them if they were well. Granted most of them are seniors... but that's just the demographic of the suburb.

Hey, maybe you could keep a tin of biscuits with you. Offer them to people passing through. Offer them to the girl. Maybe she gets thirsty, oh what's that? You have a spare bottle of iced coffee because you had to buy 2 to get the special. Think about it, Rey. Coffee AND biscuits.

my typical course of action after i met someone i got on with was to add them on im...it seems a lot less creepy than asking for a number or even facebook to me. of course when i was 18/19 and started dating kyle people actually still used aim so i'm not sure what the kids these days are into haha. maybe you can smoothly start a conversation you know you can't finish within 3 or 4 minutes or however long you really have to sit there and chat and be like "hey here's my skype let's finish this later" and you can win 500 smooth talker points

idk it worked on me i got married

take all your relationship advice from me

EDIT: The only problem is that whenever I meet someone, it's never in a way that I can have extended, social contact with them to where I can build that familiarity as "not a creep", and all society ever tells me is that 90% of what I'd do to initiate some sort of extended, social contact is "creepy".

I tried the whole "Take it slow and don't do anything drastic that might look creepy." front with this other girl, and it just ended with her cutting all communication with me and going out with some other dude. And I had more extended, social contact with her than I do this other girl.

Well, every girl (and boy) is different. Who knows, maybe the other girl cut contact because she was suddenly preoccupied with a new boyfriend.
I just think playing it safe yields a good return simply because even if the lady gets snapped up by another guy, by being friendly and non-threatening/creepy you can at least win yourself a friend. A friend who might have good advice for the next time a lady catches your fancy. And each person you are successfully friends with increases your experience and subsequently your skill with reading people and perhaps doing better each time. Failures give experience too after all.

So you might not know what to do with this one girl right now, I don't think any of us would know either since, like I said, everyone is different. But definitely keep making polite conversation, you might learn enough to give you some clues.

I still think the biscuit play could work ;D

Do you guys have, like, conversations? If you guys are comfortable conversing for a minute or two there, you could try asking if she wants to get a drink at a cafe some time. I haven't done any relationship seeking since highschool (when I got with my current lady) but any time I wanna get to know someone better, guy kr girl, I like to grab lunch/coffee with em at a close by place we might both like. Obviously it could be sorta awkward if she didn't wanna, but it's somethin to keep in mind I guess when you feel you've spent a good amount if time chatting with her and she seems interested in getting to know you.

if I could just chirp in and say dire's iced coffee plan would totally pull me

On "being a creepo", a lot of what I think you think might constitute as creepy behaviour depends on how it is presented rather than the action itself.

If you mumble to a girl about how her buns are toasty she'll think you're captain weirdo but if you say it with cheek and confidence then it's flirting. By not being forward even a little bit she won't understand your intentions.

toasted buns is high level play though don't try it until you're ready

*rattles a tin of teddy bear biscuits in princess brothel's direction*

I concur with HB about the confidence thing. If you try and offer her biscuits without being able to sit up straight, smile, and look her in the eye... she might wonder what you put in the cookies.
Body language or even the tone of your voice can completely change how what you say can be interpreted.

Noffletoff has set the dates for his visit! I'm really really excited and planning out what we'll do everyday. I'm not gonna let my parents stop me from being with him every day he visits! Best date ideas so far: see all the historic things in my city, museums, amusement parks, the zoo, eat tons of Tex-Mex food, and eat at the pizza place that serves 37" pizzas. It's gonna be a great week.

Guess who has a crush on a guy who has a crush on a guy who has a crush on a guy

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