Madican wrote:
That's the thing. I don't understand why it's such a chaotic minefield. Think of it from my perspective: you've never had the romantic/sexual feelings that are the most prevalent thing in this thread, never felt the urge to satisfy yourself, puberty consisted mostly of hair and height with some voice changes, and despite thinking that things can be logically worked out emotion-wise you also know that's just not true.
I skipped a big problem, but as a result I don't know anything about what it's like to go through that problem and it confuses the hell out of me to try understanding it because I'm not normal. That's what I meant, not that I'm above anyone else.
The problem might be that you think of sexuality as a problem (unless I'm reading that wrong). Sexuality is a unique aspect of life that holds many joys. Unfortunately, it can lead to a bit of frustration sometimes, but I think you're overestimating the impact of that. The thing is that your observations are based on the internet. People tend to exaggerate things here, and it's mostly the people who go through more extreme things who take the effort to share it. This makes them seem like a larger part of the population than they actually are.
Here's what sexual frustration is like for most people "Dayum, I could really do some sexing right. Crap, I can't for /various reasons/. Oh well, guess I'll just jerk off/do something else distracting." It's like a stronger version of "daisies, I could go for some Chinese tonight ..."