The Dating Stories/Progress thread

Unbalanced · **Joined:** Wed Nov 19, 2008 10:54 pm **Posts:** 5286

Dang when did this thread get here

Oh well, I might as well post something about Mina and I, and I know the perfect thing to put here. I wrote it last winter on my tumblr, and i'll quote it (and slightly alter some contextual things) here. SORRY IT'S SO LONG...

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In honour of me getting to visit Mina for the second time on the 26th (note: I'm now on the fourth time :3), I thought it would be a good time to make a sappy post about the two of us.

So I guess a good place as any to start is the mystical origin story of our relationship. Ironically, the beginning of our relationship can be traced to a game of Monopoly. For once instead of driving friends and family apart, it brought two internet strangers together. Now we weren’t technically strangers, but we were pretty much just acquaintances on Awkward Zombie. It’s likely I hadn’t talked personally to her for several months by the time of that game, and it was only then we upgraded to the “pretty good friends” status.

Anyways, that game was started by another friend, Epona, who had invited me, Mina, and Palenque. After that, he started a skype chat with us because the game was so fun we decided we needed to do more stuff together. We named it the upstanding member of society chat because Mina was the only one who wasn’t a upstanding member of society and upstanding member of society jokes were still totally cool and hilarious back then (no they weren’t). I think even without the dumb jokes though, I would have seeped it into her all the same.

On one fateful July 3rd, we were joking around and I asked Mina if we should be boyfriend and girlfriend. I kind of…don’t even remember the response, so here’s a summary from Mina (who doesn’t know I’m using it for this post right now):

[3:08:40 PM] Unbalanced: do you remember how you responded

[3:08:40 PM] Greylin: yeah

[3:09:00 PM] Greylin: ummm

[3:09:20 PM] Greylin: i think you joked about it and i pushed it off or something and then realized what i did and was like “daisies”

[3:09:55 PM] Greylin: so i pretended to be joking again after that and told you to stop playing with my emotions and you were all “well do you WANT to go out with me then” or something like that

Okay so I pretty much have no memory of anything, but I think you can pretty much tell how we both felt by how we brought it up repeatedly. After awhile of this going back and forth, one day we both realized “wait shit, I guess we weren’t joking!” and found out we both kind of wanted it the entire time.

There’s not much between then and now to mention besides us being sappy to each other, webcamming, etc. except for our visit at Otakon last July. These pictures are of it if you haven’t guessed already. For the first time ever, I was accurately able to pinpoint the best time in my life, and it’s with her. That’s not to say we had a graceful start, though. When she found me outside of the building, we said our hellos and waited for her dad to drive off. That’s when I hugged her and gave her a facebattle on the cheek (just because I said I will no matter what, just to be sure). After that, it was sort of a strange couple of hours. We just went around and did registration business and stuff all casually, and we pretty much had no idea what to say to each other. I was walking around with her really frustrated yelling in my head “SHE’S RIGHT HERE, THE PERSON YOU’VE LOVED FOR A YEAR, SAY SOMETHING”. Fortunately, it didn’t last too long. Eventually we warmed up to the whole idea of actually being with each other in real life and that’s when things got better. I hadn’t even considered until after I left and had asked Mina about it that she felt just as awful as me during the first couple of hours, acting like we’re just good friends. But hey, it all worked out, and we’re pop flyin' now.

It’s been an amazing two years. When I look back at it, I feel awful about some of the ignorant things I had done. There were plenty of times near the beginning when I did things without considering how she would feel or react to it, and I’d just be an oblivious jackass and have no clue why she didn’t want to talk to me later. But at the same time, I’m pop flyin' about the better times we had, and hopeful that I’m not as oblivious now about her feelings.

Badfish · **Joined:** Sun Jun 14, 2009 3:52 pm **Posts:** 3480

So, I got a date last night over some text.

It's with a co-worker, her and I have been friends for about a month and a half. Good friends, really good friends. She would tell me the names of the guys she liked, I would tell her the girls I liked, and we tried to help each other out, basically. I've always liked her, but I thought she was much out of my league.

All last week she was vacationing in Hawaii. One night she asked me to look at our schedules and tell her when she worked next, and when we'd be working together. We wouldn't end up working together until Wednesday or something, so I offered to hang out outside of work sometime.

Exactly one day later she texts me "Badfish, are you asking me out on a date?"

I had a panic attack for no real reason, I wasn't really thinking straight, so I tried to play it off "cooly."

"...Maybe. I hope that doesn't bother you."

20 minutes later, no text back. So I was just like Fugg it.

"Actually, yes, yes I am. You're cute, really cute. I'd really like to hangout with you outside of work sometime."

Apparently, at one point and time, I said I didn't like her? She probably asked me and I backed out because I got nervous.

"Badfish, u said u didn't like me like that!"
"I'm really bad at flirting, but yes, I do."
"What!!!"
"Is it really that out of the blue?"(Yes)
"Yes!"
"Mah bad... this is one huge wave of awkward right now isn't it?"
"Not at all. lol"
"Well, that's good to know

. So, yeah, hang out sometime?
"Yeah

"

Omigod, she said yes. I traded shifts with a guy beforehand, so I'm heading into work in about 2 hours. She'll be there today.

Things I learned from this: I'm probably really bad at telling when people are flirting with me, taking chances is the best thing you can do, don't panic.

I still can't believe it actually happened, I'm not expecting anything other than a date, mind you, but going out with a really, really cute girl right now, one that I previously crossed off my list of "potentials" because I had low self confidence, it's just a huge confidence booster. Lots of things are going right in my life, and it wasn't before I started taking chances that they occurred.

Nachalnik · **Joined:** Tue Mar 09, 2010 2:23 pm **Posts:** 10836

i have a boyfriend and he's really nice

we play tf2 together alot and he always tells me how cute i am (●´∀｀●)

shazza · **Posted:** Mon Jul 16, 2012 11:46 am

unba you two are the cutest and i want to squish you both

your story reminded me of how kyle confessed his affection to me and be prepared for cheese (and old aim names)

we had been talking about peanut butter for some reason and his analogies here is what spurred our continued use of "peanut butter sandwich" as a euphemism for sex. he totally was not just trying to get into my pants in this conversation though lol.

the "friend" he "made a Sandwich" with was a girl he knew when he was 17 or so whom he had a one-night-stand with (long story short: she got as close to rape as possible without it actually being rape and he while they remained friends for a while afterwards, something clicked when he told the story to me and he realized what she did and broke all contact with her.)

also i TOTALLY did not know what was going on until near the end

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ThatGoober55さん: I really like peanut butter. (note here that he bodaciously meant he likes peanut butter, no sexual overtones yet)
ispeakpewさん: lawl
ThatGoober55さん: I tried it once with a friend, and it was pretty bleh... lookin for that right person though... to y'know, share peanut butter with.
ispeakpewさん: lawl
ThatGoober55さん: I probably don't make very good sandwiches, but I'll get better.
ispeakpewさん: aww
ispeakpewさん: is ok
ThatGoober55さん: My passion for peanut butter will push me beyond my capabilities.
ispeakpewさん: im not so good either
ThatGoober55さん: We can get better together. <3
ispeakpewさん: xD
ThatGoober55さん: That is such a rare thing to come across nowadays though... two people that aren't very experienced with peanut butter.
ispeakpewさん: haha its called
ispeakpewさん: nerdy people dont get out and make friends syndrome
ThatGoober55さん: Well I know but... freakin kids these days are trading sandwiches like candy.
ispeakpewさん: ikr
ThatGoober55さん: I don't want that.
ThatGoober55さん: I just want my one sandwich buddy.
ispeakpewさん: lawl
ThatGoober55さん: It's alright if it's not gourmet, special awesome peanut butter, as long as it's with someone who I care about eating peanut butter sandwiches will be that much more special.
ispeakpewさん: awww
ispeakpewさん: i cant decide whether to hug you or start laughing at the fact that you're technically talking about food
ThatGoober55さん: Hahahhaa
ThatGoober55さん: Y'know... I do care a lot about you. I do eventually want to eat peanut butter sandwiches with you. I don't want to rush 'cause y'know... a hurriedly made sandwich is all lumpy and unsatisfying. When the time is right, I'll make the best daisies peanut butter sandwich you've ever made, if you want to eat it with me that is.
ispeakpewさん: i
ispeakpewさん: awww D:
ThatGoober55さん: you've ever had***
ThatGoober55さん: :\ Don't fail me now grammar!
ispeakpewさん: xD
ispeakpewさん: is ok
ispeakpewさん: still understands
ThatGoober55さん: I don't want to force you to eat peanut butter. I'd never do that. I just have to know that you want some and I'll share it with you.
ispeakpewさん: ahahha this is the cutest confession ever
ispeakpewさん: ilu
ThatGoober55さん: XD
ispeakpewさん: -hug-
ThatGoober55さん: I... I'm probably blushing right now.

and we started actually officially being boyfriend/girlfriend a couple days later which happened to be the day before thanksgiving and i'll never forgive him because it's made for the worst anniversary date ever. THANK GOD I GET TO PICK THE WEDDING DATE.

Unbalanced · **Joined:** Wed Nov 19, 2008 10:54 pm **Posts:** 5286

well, at least now i know there are stupider ways to become a couple than what we did

(jk you are the cutest too)

AngelicSongx · **Posted:** Tue Jul 17, 2012 5:45 pm

Aww Shazza, that's so cute! But, how is it a bad anniversary date? It's easy to remember, and you could eat non-sexual peanut butter sandwiches and turkey and other thanksgiving foods on that day, too.

Reyo · **Posted:** Tue Jul 17, 2012 6:24 pm

I had completely forgotten about this thread's existence. Either way, here's a copy paste of a relevant comment I made earlier in the "Things that piss you off" thread.

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It's entirely too possible that the girl I like flaked on me the other day for my liking. I hang out at her house (on her request) we have what I think was an OK time just talking, but two days later she doesn't want to go out and do stuff. She just wanted to stay home. I had to leave town, but said it was possible for me to postpone my departure another day, and that it was up to her if she wanted to do something. While this was going on I was wondering if I was gonna get invited to hang at her house again, but I wasn't going to invite myself like a common douchebag. Long story short it didn't happen.

Maybe I'm being paranoid though...it's just curious that, given the initial hanging out was her idea, this potential second hanging out was never brought up as a possibility...

Vax · **Posted:** Tue Jul 17, 2012 11:26 pm

If your interested, you should ask her again if she wants to hang. It's not douchebaggy to show interest in someone you have an interest in.

Reyo · **Posted:** Wed Jul 18, 2012 12:03 am

To be honest, she did say that she was willing to make plans for the next time I was in town. The main issue is that it's a little fishy that, after having hung out at her place with no formal planning, such a thing wasn't brought up as a possibility for when all she wanted to do was chill out at her house. I realize it could've been that she had the idea I just wanted to go out and do stuff, but such a thing wasn't confirmed nor denied, it was just assumed. I may just be being paranoid, but it smells too much like that scenario where you and a couple friends make plans, only at the last minute those plans are cancelled...numerous times. That in itself needs explaining though:

Day one: I hang out at her house. All we do is talk. No awkwardness happens. All is well.
Day two: We had made plans to go see a movie (which would've happened day one but didn't because of reasons) but we couldn't because she had a family night (understandable) to do.
Day three: I leave for town, or hang out with her (this is the situation I am now telling you about).

We have plans in the work for next month, but I'm a little worried, given recent events, that those will fall to the wayside because of last minute shenanigans. I'm presenting this to the world to ask if my concerns are founded in anything, or if it's more likely one big coincidence. It's too reminiscent of that "I'm busy washing my hair" style of rejection where she basically throws you to the curb without having to deal with the stress of physically throwing you to the curb. I don't mind her throwing me to the curb, to be honest. That's her choice. I just want to fucking know that and not be led on. That way I can set my sights elsewhere. And this is where I stop before I get too tangential/controversial.

Dire · **Posted:** Wed Jul 18, 2012 5:26 am

I wouldn't be worried yet.

shazza · **Posted:** Wed Jul 18, 2012 10:26 am

AngelicSongx wrote:

Aww Shazza, that's so cute! But, how is it a bad anniversary date? It's easy to remember, and you could eat non-sexual peanut butter sandwiches and turkey and other thanksgiving foods on that day, too.

because we both have to go to our respective family's celebrations and my family is in south Louisiana and his is in Fort Worth so we never get to do anything together on our actual anniversary :c the one time he came with me to my family thanksgiving we still didn't get to do anything because we didn't have our own car so couldn't go off sightseeing on our own.

Nachalnik · **Joined:** Tue Mar 09, 2010 2:23 pm **Posts:** 10836

bf can't afford to visit me

parents won't let me visit bf

(ノಠ益ಠ)ノ

Reyo · **Posted:** Wed Jul 18, 2012 2:10 pm

Dire wrote:

I wouldn't be worried yet.

That worries me. There some kind of trigger word or event I need to be looking for or is that just because it's too early in the "relationship"?

Tuckertrilby · **Posted:** Sun Aug 19, 2012 7:57 pm

iiiiiiiiiiiits that time again for another dating story from yours truly!

So I met this girl talking in a forum similar to this. She starts talking videogames and minecraft with me which is awesome! So we chat for a day and she drops a number, and I should have taken that as a sign, but nope I didnt.

So we txt for a week or two and then I invite her to my minecraft server (I know nothing but straight class there) and she starts building and we chat and laugh and have a good minecraft time. After playing minecraft for a few days she asks me to go visit her. I put it off for a week to get to know her more. I found out she occasionally smoked pot, and drank socially. Which isnt a big deal to me.

She asks if when we hang out is it going to be a date. I say "hey why not, you seem pretty cool and cute." So she gets all excited and says how nice she is going to dress and how we should go see a movie and talk. So date day comes, and I go to pick her up. Its a decent hour and twenty minute drive. I get there and she hops in the car, and I am almost terrified. Her version of "Dressing Nice" looked like a goth hobo's dumpster closet. I was concerned, and didnt say anything. I smiled and introduced myself and we started talking. She was pretty cool, she asked me questions while I drove us to the local mall. She asked if she could play a cd in my cdplayer and I was ok with it, until....

The first song that came on her "cd" or as I will call it from now on, the promise of things to come music, was "U Blocked me on FB now you will Die." I knew of the song, but I would not open up a date with that sort of mix. So I look past this and worry for my life slightly as we drive off to the mall. She starts telling me how she smoked a bowl before our "Date" and how she really wanted to smoke more, and she asked if she could. I said no, because I take care of clients, who ride in my car sometimes. She says ok and gets pouty. Then she does something that is a pet peeve of mine. She messes with my radio settings, changing the bass, treble, balance and then starts to rifle through my ipods settings. I asked her nicely to stop, but she kept going. I bit my tongue and tried not to go insane.

We get to the mall, and she tells me to wait by my car while she goes and does something. I watch he run behind a bush about 30 feet away. I tilted my head in curiously as I smelt what she was doing... Pot, not a big deal. She comes back blitzed and says "man that was my 4th bowl today. 4th... it was 12:45 pm... I woke her up telling her I was heading out at 10:30... I am have lost interest in the girl at this point and am just looking for an excuse to leave now.

She decides we dont want to see a movie, and begs me to buy her food. We get food, and start to eat. She demolishes hers like she has never eaten. Then starts eating mine without asking. (peeve 2!) We go to the arcade, she begs me for cheddar to play... we play game, her gun doesnt work, she smashes it. @_@

I go to bring her home, and she starts talking about how she cuts herself and how she needs to get drunk because she hasn't been drunk in 12 hours... She sees some of her friends next to a bar and asks me to stop. She gets out of the car and I drive away.

I really need to find a girlfriend who is not psyco...

Sol Reaper · **Posted:** Sun Aug 19, 2012 9:38 pm

My turn

So a few weeks ago I had this stunning revelation that I should move out and started making plans to do so next January. I was discussing this with my at-the-time girlfriend and brought up the subject of her moving in with me because she's basically done with school too and I thought "Hey I love her and she loves me so why not". After I mentioned this she went into one of her not-talking-to-me spells so I pressed her on this; why she kept going silent and refusing to talk to me. Turns out the things I talk about scare her so she distances herself from me. I'm fine with this, she's obviously just not ready. But then she drops this bomb: "Don't you think it's a little naive to go through our relationship expecting it's going to last forever?" Now, if you don't know me, you know I put everything into a relationship; I operate under the assumption that if two people love each other they'll never want to break up. Which I suppose is naive but when she said it like a reprimand, I'll admit I was rather hurt. I tried to message her to get her to talk to me about this but she continues to refuse to speak to me. So I figure if she won't talk to me about our issues then the relationship will get nowhere.

I'm also the kind of person who won't mope around for weeks when I have a breakup, so I was back on the scene about a week later. Don't give me your "courtesy time" bullshit because frankly I don't care. My ex-gf didn't talk to me enough to really constitute a relationship so at this point breaking up was a formality. Anyway, I recently found this really cute girl about my age, maybe a year older, and we've really clicked; hoping this goes somewhere but not too fast or I'll end up with another fiasco like last time.

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